Guide: Setting Values as a Couple

When we plan out our (very busy) days, how often does “dating” “being engaged” or “be married” make the list? Whether we are thinkin about our relationships or not, they’re happening! In the midst of our lives that pull us in many different directions, it can be easy to find our relationships, decisions, actions, homes, and lives, might take a detour to a spot we aren’t so in-line with.

By having a conversation with your person about what your values are as a couple, it can be like a play book to keep you both on your path. It’s a tool you can use to make decisions, have conversations, ask for what you need, or come up with ideas.

ENGAGED PEOPLE! This might have been the most helpful thing that we did not only in planning a wedding, but starting our marriage. The weekend after we got engaged, Will and I sat on our park bench in Boston Public Garden and talked about us a couple. We listed out what we wanted people to feel like when we were with them, how it felt to be in our home, what did we value, what did we want together? And from there on out, every wedding decision was held up against that vision and values. And it turned into exactly a day that felt like us.

To this day, I see our values surfacing when we make decisions about what to do on the weekends, how to talk to one another, when we day dream about our future home, and in those tough moments too.

Follow this guide below to set up a vision and values with your partner, and download the PDF to access links: